Not the “F word” you were thinking, get your mind out of the gutter.
The F-word I am talking about is: FINE
It’s such a weenie of a word, and it’s used (I have used it) waaaaaay too often. So I am officially breaking up with FINE.
I just finished listening to an audiobook called Never Unfriended, by Lisa Jo Baker, and it has been so convicting. I have been recommending it left & right because there is something for EVERYONE in this book. It’s helped me unpack some of my junk (hello, friendship PTSD) so my relationships (friends and family) can FLOURISH. There are so many things to talk about from this book, I’ll save them for another time.
I’ve still got work to do (don’t we all?), but one simple thing I can do is get rid of fine and insert other adjectives. Fine is a scapegoat that so easily rolls off the tongue even when we are a far-cry from fine. I want people to feel safe to tell me how they really feel, and I want people around me who want to hear more than “fine” from me.
I want to hear and speak about JOY!
I want to hear and speak about SADNESS!
I don’t want to cover up emotions and feelings with the old “fine” blanket anymore, mmmmkay?
Having said all that, I am not perfect (hello, Perfection Pending). I am going to make the effort to eliminate that word from my vocabulary, but there’s a good chance I will slip up here and there.
And that is just fine.